REAL GOOD MEN, SO HARD TO FIND!

Men,  wherefore art thou?

Would someone please be kind enough to state where those real male beings have gone, or have their desires in life drastically changed from yesteryear?  

I mean, when did it become more important that the woman must be extremely attractive, or worthy of his company, because she possesses her own habitat, and exhibits monetarily-endowed status, just so he can enjoy the fruit of her labor, without being a responsible, independent party? She takes care of him, functioning under the guise of a doting mother.  What in the world?  More to the point, what is the reason for things making a detour in the covenant of  the male species?

You've heard that old, familiar term, where the father is the first man in a daughter's life, how she compares every trait of him to each guy she later comes in contact with, who try to gain her attention, while hoping one will most likely be able to at least mimic some similarities of dear old Dad.  

However today, instead, more guys are portraying the "I need a woman who will give me her heart, open her door, and provide the contents of her purse" stance, forcing many to assume it's acceptable to be the provider for men, by moving him into her home, around her children, and she works tediously, while he indulges in her reaped rewards.  

Not insisting that all men resemble a "sugar-daddy," but I have always believed that, according to the 2nd chapter of Genesis, in the Word of God, MAN was created, assigned various duties and responsibilities - FIRST, before woman was even thought of:

7 And the LORD God formed MAN of the dust of the ground, and BREATHED into his nostrils the Breath of Life; and man became A LIVING SOUL!

8 And the LORD God PLANTED A GARDEN eastward in Eden; AND THERE HE PUT THE MAN whom HE had formed. 

 9 And out of the ground made the LORD God to grow every tree that is pleasant to the sight, and good for food; the tree of life also in the midst of the garden, and the tree of knowledge of good and evil.

15 And the LORD God TOOK THE MAN, AND PUT HIM into the garden of Eden, TO DRESS IT, AND TO KEEP IT!

 

Now, what I have always understood, based on that scripture, God intended to place much responsibility on man (Adam), knowing that HE should be able to work diligently, providing a safe haven for himself first, with the help of his Creator, The Most High God.  

Once our Heavenly Father realized that Adam would have needs beyond capability of naming beasts, or tending and ruling the land, God saw fit to create woman (Eve).  Notice, however, there was a slight alteration involved in the crafting of her existence from the manner of her counterpart.  Having a rib removed from the man, and placed inside the woman, then being formed, to make her a whole female-being, was a stroke of genius!  In doing so, Eve was designed by God to become the "helpmeet," spouse, or soul mate, specifically for man, in order for God's fulfillment to take shape.  

A soul mate is defined as a person who is closely connected, like-minded.  A kindred spirit, if you will, to completely understand who the man is, seeing the vision that God created him to become.  Where does it say that the bride of Adam was made to do what God ordained him for, taking over his role?

The speech Michelle Obama gave, back in October, carried such a sense of continuing inspiration, as she spoke of her dad, who showed his family what being is man constitutes.  In addition, how incredibly similar are the stories of both her father and her husband, the President, when it came to the measure of valuable character.

There are reminders of my own father, when I was very young, working two jobs - a steel factory operator and chef for a reputable catering firm.  Mom told me countless times that when they first encountered, he was very self-supporting, having his own apartment, and being probably one of the best uncle/father figures in the world for his niece, who was an only child, at least before he married and started his own family tree.  

He was considered a strong, silent gentleman, with captivating attributes:  a tall, distinguished, attractive, dark-chocolate man, who sported glasses, and carried himself with the utmost adulation. Very intellectual and studious, with strong beliefs in God and His Word, he always felt that having full trust in the Lord would help provide the undeniable strength and fortitude necessary for him to press forward, regardless to any situation at hand.   

Courting and dating moments included treating Mom to various venues, Broadway stage-plays or musicals, even showing how ad versed he was in the way of dance, doing the Cha-Cha, Merengue, and mastering the art of Swing steps, Jive or the Jitterbug (lol)! 

Having already worked for the same company for many years, he was a definite workaholic, reporting early to his job daily, and not leaving until every task was handled to the letter, resulting in sheer excellence.  It was quite obvious that God showed him how to be the bread-winner, a true provider of the family, while extending that abiding love, discipline and care, that has continued to grow with, and in us.

Now I do realize that the economy today is such that everyone, whether male or female, has become conditioned to be on a job, either through employment, or creating their own business venture, for survival.  But, what I find so unsettling, is the fact that more women today feel that it's practically more suitable, to live (shack up) with any man who appears to show them a little attention.  Moving him into her home where she pays all the bills, while giving him money, buying clothing for him, and offering him her bed.   Notwithstanding, he shows no regard for what he was created by God to do, or be, as a man.  

Somebody please explain what has happened to that type of personage.  One who demonstrates old-fashioned, tried-and-true traits: deeply loving the Lord, following the leading God provides through His Word, respecting himself, even having goals for his long-term path of life.  Determination through exhibiting life-changing morals, instilling tested ground rules, while engaging infallible rights of passage, in order for young boys to learn distinctly, as well.  

In other words, your journey should be a testament to those coming up around you, as they watch your walk.  Even if there was no male figure in the home, there are those men who proved they beat the odds, showing how their own mother encouraged them to be all they can be, and succeed.  Be responsible, fully-persuaded thinkers, who pay attention to the very fiber of the best significent teachers, to pattern their life, and soar to great possibilities.

Stand fast, and reveal what a "man after God's own heart" looks like.  Show how capable you are, created for a Purpose, and being secure in that wisdom, believing you have what it takes to pass the mantle along!  In turn, the right woman is waiting in the wings.  And yes, she is still available, just for you.  You just have to "find" her, and not allow yourself to be indebted to "The Mother Syndrome" individual!